Tip # 1: Be confident, strong, and take control
Criminals, attackers and sexual predators will look for a person they feel they can successfully attack. Even if you don’t feel strong, it is crucial you look and project a feeling of confidence, self-worth and strength when in a threatening situation. This is extremely important – you need to convey you are not easily manipulated or victimized, and you will assert yourself, make a scene, and defend yourself. With shoulders back and hands ready (pepper spray and/or alarm ready too), start looking for your easiest exit point.
What should you say? If someone is making you feel uncomfortable and approaching too close to your personal space, simply hold up your hand (like a stop sign) and say “Please move back and give me space. Thank you”. If they are approaching rapidly, say “Back off now”. Even if you are on a deserted island, also say “Mark, Tony get here quick” to project the idea you are not alone. Don’t worry if you might be making a mistake by accusing someone, criminals will hope you will follow social norms and be “afraid” to speak up. If someone is simply walking too close, they will understand and slow down and give you room.
Stay safe and confident!
Submitted by GrandMaster Janice Wood of JP Wood Martial Arts . GM Jan Wood holds a 7th degree black belt in Taekwondo, 4th degree black belt in Koryo Gumdo and 2nd degree black belt in Hapkido. She has a degree in Criminal Justice (law enforcement), and she and her husband own and operate JP Wood Martial Arts in Palatine, Illinois. She can be reached at jpwoodsmaa@msn.com..